"On the first day of Christmas my True Love gave to me..." We've all heard this song. And now since you just read the first line, it will be stuck in your head the rest of the day. You're welcome. ;) I read a great blog soon after we were married {maybe from the DatingDivas? I don't know where I saw it anymore!} about celebrating the 12 Days of Christmas with your spouse. It sounded like lots of fun to me, so I planned out 12 gifts for my husband and gave him 1 every day for 12 days before Christmas. But it just didn't go quite as I had planned. Because I forgot one important thing. Gifts were not his love language, they are mine. While Virgil graciously accepted the gifts, I knew him good enough to know he wasn't totally thrilled. What would he do with all these little things? And besides, money was a bit tight. So I just mentally crossed it off my list of new Christmas traditions. Enter our fourth Christmas season together and once again I'm trying to think of little ways to keep it special. And then it hit me: 12 days of Love Languages!! It's such a simple idea, I don't know why I didn't think of it before. The Bible says we are to honor our husband, and I think a very simple and practical way to do that is to figure out what it is that makes them "tick" - what it is that makes them feel loved and appreciated and then apply it liberally! So, here's the plan: Virgil's 2 primary Love Languages are "Words of Affirmation" and "Acts of Service" and "Physical Touch" is pretty high up there too. So first I'm going to sit down and plan what I'm going to do each day. Then, starting December 14, I am going to purposefully fill up his "Love Language cup" in 1 noticeable way. Here is an example: Day 1: Send him a text thanking/praising/reminding him of something I love about him. Day 2: Fix, clean or organize something around the house that has been bothering him. Day 3: Give several extra, intentional hugs. Day 4: Make his very favorite supper and dessert. And so on. If you don't know what you or your spouses Love Languages are, take the test here. It's a fun way to learn more about each other! And if you are not familiar with the 5 Love Languages, they are:
To help make it easier for you to plan out your 12 Days of Christmas, I created a printable for you to use for writing down your plans, and a little cheat sheet with some ideas to help you get started! I've included a couple ideas for each love language.
![]() I wish you and your "special someone" a very merry Christmas season!! <3 If you liked this post you might like these:
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