5 Ways to Keep Your Husband The Center of Your World

I really like to think that my husband and I are still newlyweds. But the truth is, we've been married 4 years, have 2 kids and are happier than ever! And really, the Happily Ever After is so much better than the Once Upon a Time.

We are so much more comfortable with each other, we know each other deeper and we love truer.
But everyday life does try to creep in, and fill our love story with ho-hum. The daily drag of cleaning house, making food and raising toddlers can take its toll and I find myself being preoccupied or wanting to grab some "me time" when my wonderful man walks in the door.

The thing is, I am not willing to settle for ho-hum or "normally ever after." I want a marriage full of sparks and flutters in my stomach and those little moments that take my breath away. I want to look at my husband when he walks in the door and think "WOW. I got the VERY best!! WOW!!" That's what I want my Happily Ever After to be. 

But we can't just expect it to happen like that without working for it. A marriage full of sparks and WOW moments take intentional thought and purposeful action. This subject has really been on my mind and I've come up with 5 ways to keep my husband as the center of my universe. 

{I say the center of my universe with the understanding that God always, always comes first. But next to God, our husband needs to be the apple of our eye!!}

1. Serve Him - When I do something for my amazing man, whether it's taking him a glass of water when he's sitting on the couch or taking time to help out on the job, it does something to my attitude. Last Sunday morning was extra busy because we invited friends over for lunch and Virgil was studying for the main teaching session at church. I felt like I needed help, but felt God telling me I should serve my husband first. So I made him his favorite breakfast: bacon, eggs and stewed crackers. {yeah, stewed crackers.} And I tell you, I think it blessed me more than it did him! It was so good for me.

2. Love Letters - Love letters and mushy cards are not just for dating!! Taking time to sit down and deliberately tell your husband why you love him is a wonderful way to remind yourself why you fell in love with him.

3. Plan a Date - It's so easy for me to get into the mindset that it's his job to plan the dates and do the pursuing. But a guy loves to be pursued too! They are busy - they're minds are full of their work and providing for the family. And when I take time to plan a date and focus on my husband, it gives me a heart for him. Last minute dates are great, but when you take several days to think out a date then your are keeping the heart attitude of pleasing your husband alive and well all that time. It's awesome!!

​4. Pray For Him - When you pray for someone it seems to connect your very souls. It will tie your husband to your heart with a depth like nothing else does. It will give you strength and fortitude to work through the hard things and the grace to love no matter what. Pray, pray, pray!!

5. Pursue Him ;) - The main love language of almost every guys is...we all know the answer right away. Sex. So if you want him to feel loved, just, ahem, purpose to take the initiative every now and then. Plan it all day. This really is a great, great way to make him the center of your world. <3

If I was to sum all of these points up together, I think the main point would be: think about your husband and how you can love on him and serve him all day long. Make it a point to think about him, often. Keep that newlywed spark alive and well!

What are some of your favorite ways to keep your husband at the center of your world?

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